Anne-Marije Goutbeek

Who I am

My name is Anne-Marije Goutbeek. I enjoy working with systems (partners, a family) because an issue or problem never stands on its own, and mutual understanding and emotional connection are crucial for achieving change. Therapy depends on good communication between client and therapist. In this therapeutic relationship, I prioritize equality, shared values, and transparency. I am open, optimistic, and direct, and I enjoy humor. Clients also experience me as engaged, calm, and empathetic.

Vision and method

The goal of therapy is for people to move forward, relying on their own strength and resilience, and using their own resources. Every voice is equally important. Together, we will look for solutions that work for each of you. In relationship therapy and family therapy, we believe that the problem is not one person: the problem is the problem. Therefore, we focus on what happens between you; this way, we gain insight into your interaction patterns and the needs that play a role in them, and we can change unhelpful patterns.

I believe it is important to get to know each other thoroughly, because it is crucial that ‘supply and demand’ are well-aligned, both in terms of content and on a personal level. We start therapy with the present and an eye on the future: what needs to change for you to feel better? To understand why things are the way they are now, we also reflect on the past: after all, every person is shaped by their experiences. We regularly check in to ensure we’re still ‘on track’ in the therapy process. Regarding the duration of treatment, I believe a good starting point is: as short as possible, as long as necessary.

Professional background

After graduating, I gained extensive experience in child and adolescent psychiatry and at an academic hospital, where I developed specific expertise in families dealing with (chronic) medical conditions. I increasingly focused on family and relationship therapy and am a registered NVRG System Therapist/Family and Relationship Therapist. My practice incorporates Emotionally Focused Therapy (see also www.eft.nl), system therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, and solution-focused therapy. After a brief period as an independent practitioner, I joined Taytelbaum Psychologen at the end of 2025, where I happily focus entirely on couples therapy, system therapy, and parental guidance.

BIG-registration Anne-Marije Goutbeek: 09059324625.